Lessons on How Not to Give a Fuck...About Being Single

Why you shouldn't give a fuck about being single or not

One thing way too many people give a huge amount of fucks about is being single. I'm not knocking being in a relationship, or wanting one, but I will say that giving too many fucks about being single just repels people, rather than attracting them...allow me to explain:

To be honest I could die single and be perfectly okay with that, just because I love the person I am. I conquer epic goals, I put a lot of love, happiness, and respect into myself. There is a saying "You can never feel lonely if you like the person you're alone with." Some of the best memories of my life have been in times when I was single...from moving to another country (which was an amazing experience), traveling worldwide for modeling gigs, skydiving for the first time...the list goes on and on. My point is that while it can be a beautiful experience to do these things with someone you love, it was incredibly empowering to do them alone (or with friends).

There are over 7 billion of us on this planet, and the number is growing. Point being, stop being in such a rush to be with someone, people will always be here. There will always be fish in the sea. Giving less fucks about this opens so many doors, because you can truly open your eyes to all the awesome things out there that YOU can achieve. People tend to spend a HUGE amount of time either trying to find someone, force relationships, or make them work even if they are all wrong. I cannot stress enough how amazed you will be if you put even half of that time into making yourself the person you want to be.

When someone needs another person in order to be happy with themselves, something is wrong. Okay, yes I said it. Nobody wants to be the sole reason for someone's happiness... it is too much of a burden to bear and it isn't much fun at all. It starts feeling like work to be in a relationship with people who are too needy, and as a result, people tend to know the warning flags of needy people and just avoid getting into relationships with them at all. Once you put that same amount of energy, love, and respect into yourself - REALLY do it, treat yourself like you would someone you are madly in love with - you start to shine with confidence. Life becomes awesome, because when you are madly in love with yourself and you respect yourself and have confidence (which is a natural side effect of loving yourself) You realize that you have filled your life up, and you don't need anyone to make you feel happy.

The irony of all ironies is that once you truly get to this level you are irresistibly attractive to everyone around you. I know this for a fact! I have seen it with myself, with people close to me. The moment they stop trying so hard, desperately trying to find someone to be with, it's like a switch gets flipped and everyone around you is attracted to your energy. The beautiful part about that is you then realize you don't need that anymore. At this point you have the power to choose only people who compliment you, or just enjoy being yourself and your own best friend (which you should always be, in or out of a relationship) until you decide otherwise.

It's about who you are BEING, not who you are doing. Relationships of all kinds come and go, this is a fact. People change, people die, people move. The only person you are guaranteed to wake up to every day of your life is yourself...better get comfortable with who you are, you fucking rock! Stop fretting over forcing romantic love, and fall in love with life and yourself, it is the most fulfilling feeling in the world.