Some people are incredibly charismatic and just a pleasure to be around. I did a bit of thinking on what traits exactly make people magnetic and attractive to others (with some help from my peers). What makes us want to be like and be around certain people. This is what we came up with:
1. Honesty - Honesty is always the best policy. Honesty is having character, being straightforward in your words and actions, and telling the truth. We are all attracted to honest people because it feels good to be able to trust someone. Honest people are attractive for friends and relationships because we can confide in them, they have integrity and keep their promises. Even little white lies like telling your friend that shirt looks nice on them when they ask you, when in reality it accentuates their gut and makes them look like a douchebag - aren't cool. You might think you are being polite but it's not helping anyone in the long run.
2. Sense Of Humor - Having a sense of humor is being able to appreciate and express the humourous. This means being able to make people laugh or smile, even when things aren't going too well. The people with the best sense of humor can make friends smile in any situation, and make things a lot more fun and interesting. Having a sense of humor is NOT being a tryhard, force feeding your friends jokes you looked up on google, being the class clown that just wants attention and will do anything for it. Those things are cringe-worthy and not attractive at all. Rather, a sense of humor is about finding the humourous things in any situation, and radiating good energy and charisma...all of which is incredibly attractive.
3. Optimism - People who are optimistic are a joy to be around. They find the bright side of any situation, even when things aren't going their way. At this point, optimists are the only people I choose to spend a lot of time with. They radiate positive energy and as a result make themselves and everyone around them be in a better mood. People are more attractive when they smile, and having a cheerful disposition is magnetic. Not to mention, life is just better when you make the choice to have a brighter outlook.
4. Modesty - Modesty is freedom from vanity or boastfulness. Being modest is having confidence and self-esteem but not feeling the need to tell everyone you meet (which stems from insecurity anyway). Being modest stems from having self control.
5. Confidence - Of all the traits here, confidence is the most attractive quality that someone can possess. It emcompasses a lot of things, but mainly having a healthy level of self esteem (your evaluation of your own self worth) and having the balls to take action and stand behind what you believe in. When you love and respect yourself, other people follow suit...it is easy to be attracted to someone who clearly knows they deserve respect and acts accordingly. Our mind is a powerful thing...do epic things and you will find yourself realizing just how epic you really are.
"Self-confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings." - Samuel Jackson
6. Patience - Patience is zen..."the state of endurance under difficult circumstances". When someone is patient they refrain from jumping to conclusions, losing their temper easily, or getting pissed when they are waiting for someone or something. Being patient also begets power, because it takes patience to undertake something like getting a degree or other things that take years of your life. It is also a quality that stems from self control, and the saying is true...good things do come to those who wait. It is true that life is short, but some things cannot be rushed.
"The road to success is dotted with many tempting parking spaces." – Will Rogers
7. Dependability - The anti-flake. People who are dependable follow through, keep their promises, and tell the truth. We have all dealt with people we cannot depend on, and it really sucks. Being consistent and dependable is not only attractive, but a basic essential quality to being a decent human being. Sorry if this is harsh, but people who aren't dependable are just a waste of time to be in any kind of relationship with. They have little respect for other people's time, which gets old really fast.
8. Kindness - Having class, treating other people with respect, and following basic ettiquette like speaking when spoken to is being kind. Kindness is definitely not weakness, on the contrary it is a strength. Treat people like shit and eventually in one way or another, it will come back to you. Kindness is part of what makes us human...having a concern for others well being, being polite and compassionate. It is extremely magnetic and attractive when someone is kind, just as it's ugly when people are not. We are all just trying to make it, being a kind and decent person makes everything a lot more pleasant for everyone.
9. Maturity - Maturity is the ability to respond to the environment in an appropriate manner. It is being the bigger person in disagreements, realizing when your realtionship with someone is more important than being right all the time. People who are mature don't play silly games, or waste time, and treat other people with respect. Mature people seek wisdom before action. A wise man once said: A mature person is one whose agenda revolves around others, not self. Being mature is something that comes with experiences and learning, growing up...everyone grows older, but not everyone grows up.
You're NUMBER ONE!
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